I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “if he wanted to, he would.” Let’s talk about that phrase and how it applies to gifting to your spouse. This phrase implies having an expectation for your spouse to go the extra mile and find opportunities to please you. The holiday season is a great time of year to do exactly that, go the extra mile to please your spouse.
When it comes to spousal gift-giving, the act becomes more than just a material exchange; it becomes an expression of love, appreciation, and thoughtfulness. However, finding the perfect gift can sometimes ignite feelings of dread, stress, and uncertainty. So let’s explore the art of thoughtful gift-giving and how to convey heartfelt messages through the gifts we carefully choose for our spouses.
1. Reflect on Meaningful Memories
As you embark on your holiday gift-giving journey, take a moment to reflect on the meaningful memories you've shared with your spouse. These can be either old or new memories. Think back to an experience you shared that brought you peace, warmth, and admiration for your partner. Incorporating these memories into your gift choices adds a personal touch that goes beyond the material aspect. There is some truth behind the phrase, “it’s the thought that counts.”
Example: If you both share a love for adventure, consider gifting a personalized travel journal or planning a surprise weekend getaway to revisit a place that holds sentimental value. Or consider re-creating your most memorable date. Photos are also a great way to share a memory. Consider a print of your favorite picture (old or new) and try to have a placement in mind.
2. The Power of Personalization
Thoughtful gifts are often those that are customized to reflect the recipient's personality and preferences. Show your spouse that you know them intimately by choosing a gift that aligns with their interests, hobbies, or aspirations.
Example: If your spouse is a book lover, consider gifting a special edition of their favorite book with a heartfelt inscription. Alternatively, create a personalized book of "Our Love Story," chronicling the journey of your relationship. You can also find customizable items on Etsy that your spouse can use in their lives; home décor, clothing, etc.
3. Handwritten Love Notes
In the era of digital communication, there's something exceptionally intimate about a handwritten note. Take the time to pen down a heartfelt message expressing your love, gratitude, and appreciation for your spouse. Attach the note to your gift to create a lasting and meaningful keepsake.
For me, these are the most memorable and meaningful; they can also double up on ‘Meaningful Memories.’ I can’t tell you what gifts my husband has given me, but I’ve saved every single card. Often these cards will reflect back on our years together, highlights of the past year, and the dreams we have for our future.
4. Choosing Gifts with Purpose
When selecting gifts for your spouse, consider items that serve a purpose beyond the initial excitement of unwrapping. Practical gifts, when chosen thoughtfully, demonstrate that you've considered your spouse's needs and desires.
Example: If your spouse loves cooking, gift them a high-quality kitchen gadget or a cooking class. Better yet, take that class with them! Take interest in their hobbies; sign them up for a 5k race if they like to run, sign up for a local art class with them, attend their favorite show. The thought and effort you put in will shine through.
A gift for your spouse during the holidays is an opportunity to strengthen the bond and create lasting memories. Finding the right gift does not have to be costly or extravagant. Infusing thought, memories, and a special message can carry you far during this holiday season. So get excited about this opportunity to share what you love and admire about your spouse!